What is failure, anyway?

I looked it up. Here’s what Oxford languages had to say: 

1. Lack of success. (Gee, thanks. 'Success', by the way, they define as ‘the accomplishment of an aim or purpose’)

2. The omission of an expected or required action.

Working with these definitions, I'd argue that we can do a lot to decrease the experience of failure in our life:

• We can fail less by changing our ‘aim or purpose’.
• We can fail less by changing our expectations.

This is not an argument for lowering the bar, though it could be seen as such.

It’s an argument for changing how you keep score and where you focus. 

You might think this is just a big mind game ... and I suppose that's true. But, whatever label you want to put on it, it can have a bigger impact than you might think.

So, what’s one thing you could change to have more success and less failure … without actually changing your overall goals?