Never there

Here's something I've heard from a lot of clients over the years:

“I just want to get to a point where this doesn’t happen anymore.”

Most recently, I heard it from a client struggling with recurring lapses in staying on top of certain parts of their work. They’d drift off course, notice it, and then hear the self-criticism engine in their head start revving up it's usually litany of attacks.

The hard (but ultimately freeing) truth is this:

Life doesn’t work like that.

There is no final state of perfect, permanent alignment. We drift. We recalibrate. We drift again. What matters isn’t eliminating the drift, it’s building trust in your ability to notice, adjust, and return.

But for many of us, we can internalize that drifting as some sort of failure, evidence that there's something wrong with us.

That space is where the work is.

When you start to approach these moments with curiosity rather than self-criticism, you open up room for something better than “finally getting it right.”

You build the muscle of gentle, resilient realignment.

Keep doing it and you'll come to truly understand that being “off course” doesn't reflect failure on your part. It’s just part of being human.