Overwhelmed? Stuck?

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We live in a challenging world

Today, there’s more information to process, more distractions, and higher expectations than ever before. As a result, we experience more anxiety and distress than previous generations did. If you’re struggling with your moods, your relationships, or other parts of your life, you’re more normal than you might think.

We’re not taught the tools we need to handle these challenges

Normal or not, when we don’t have the skills to effectively handle our feelings and have healthy relationships, we end up taking actions that make things worse. This leads to more negative feelings and fuels a downward spiral of moods, conflict, and events that harm us, our relationships, and our careers. If unchecked, it can destroy lives.

Good news: there’s a solution

Fortunately, with the right tools, knowledge, and support, this is a very solvable problem. Keep reading to learn more about the process of therapy and how it can help you overcome your current struggles.
 

I do my best work with…

  • Men and women who struggle in their lives and relationships because they often say ‘yes’ when they want to say ‘no’, end up overwhelmed and angry as a result, and want to take back their lives.
  • Successful professionals who are stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed and looking for tools and support to get their lives back under control.
  • Couples who are experiencing more conflict than connection in their relationships and want to find love again.

 

Therapy can do a lot for you

Feel happier

If you’re struggling with your moods and feelings, I’ll help you learn how to keep them in check so they don’t run (or ruin) your life. If you’ve got old hurts, we’ll work on healing them.

Find clarity and focus

A lot of us spend so much time just coping with the stresses and challenges of our life that we lose sight of what matters to us or what we want out of life. If that’s true for you, we’ll work on helping you reconnect with your identity, values, and goals, which is a powerful tool for focusing your energy and attention in today’s distraction-filled world.

Get more of what you want out of life

I’ll help you develop the ability to create a life that’s true to you and what matters to you by teaching you a powerful system for growth and change. If you master that system, you’ll also see an increase in confidence and self-esteem that will help you do things that your old self wouldn’t have believed were possible.

Improve your relationships

Relationships are critical to our lives and our well-being. If you’re struggling with your relationships, we’ll work on better communication and conflict resolution skills to help you create happier relationships where both people trust each other, feel heard, and get their needs met.
 

Forget the clichés you’ve heard about therapy

I want to get you out of my office

Don’t take that wrong – I care deeply about my clients and love working with them. Ultimately, though, my goal is to make them independent of me, not to have them spend years in my office “processing” their childhood. You’re more capable than you think, and I’m here to help you see and embrace your strengths.

I’m not just going to listen

Talking about your problems can help you have a better understanding of them, but that alone isn’t enough to produce lasting change. I’ve been told by many of my clients who’ve seen other therapists in the past that they appreciate the amount of feedback they get from me and the work we do on developing specific action plans in our sessions. I want my clients to become experts at handling the inevitable challenges of life and creating (and sustaining) change and growth. Once that happens, they’re pretty unstoppable.

I believe therapy is both science and art

The science is in the techniques I use (for those who are interested, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy are the primary modalities I work in), and the art is in applying the techniques in a way that works for you, your unique personality, goals, and learning style. I don’t do ‘one size fits all’ therapy, and my ability to adapt my approach to fit each client is one of my strengths as a therapist.
 

What’s next?

That’s up to you. If you’re ready to get started, schedule a consultation so we can talk about your current concerns and how I can be of help.

If you’d like to learn a bit more about me, my beliefshow I work, and get common questions answered, check out those pages. My blog has lots of articles to help you get more out of your life and relationships, and you can subscribe to it to get new articles sent directly to you. Most importantly, what I want for you is not to give up on yourself. No matter where you are now, it’s possible for you to make things better, and I’m happy to be of service to you in that process.

Keep moving forward,

 

-Steve

Hi, I’m Steve. A former ‘nice guy’ turned psychotherapist & coach, I help people build the confidence & courage they need to stand up for themselves. Learn more…

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