Is looking out for everyone else keeping you from living your life?

I help people like you take back their lives… without becoming a jerk

 

  • Do you find yourself saying “yes” when you want to say “no” because of guilt or fear of rejection?

  • Do you sometimes omit the truth or tell ‘white lies’  to avoid conflict?

  • Are you more worried about what others think of you than what you think of yourself?

  • Do you get hurt or upset easily when someone disagrees with or criticizes you?

  • Are you spending so much energy helping others that there’s nothing left for you?

If so, you’ve come to the right place. It is possible to get more of what you want out of your life and relationships, and you don’t have to be selfish to get there.

Being nice is good … in theory

Being nice and accommodating is often a strategy adopted by people who are lacking confidence. In general, there’s nothing wrong with being nice and helping others. However, it doesn’t address the core problem, and it creates several more. There comes a point when you find that your ‘self’ gets lost as your opinions, wants, needs fade into the background and disappear behind your desire to please others. Your fears about conflict, disapproval & rejection lead to anxiety. Your frustrations about not getting your needs met lead to depression and anger.

It’s possible for anyone to become more confident. It’s not something you just ‘have’, it’s something you build. As you do so, you become more able to stand up for yourself and get your needs met in your life.

I’m a recovering ‘nice guy’ myself and I’ve helped many other people on this journey. As you learn to stand up for yourself, you’ll not only be happier, but you’ll experience an increase in respect – both the respect you have for yourself and the respect you receive from others.

How coaching & counseling can help you

  • Get more of your wants & needs met – without guilt or fear

  • Stop others from taking advantage of you

  • Learn to negotiate ‘win-win’ agreements

  • Develop the strength to stop fear and avoidance from running your life

  • Create closer, more connected relationships

  • Get clarity about what matters & the confidence to create it in your life

Ready to take back your life?

I help people with a lot of different problems and concerns … but the truth is that the favorite part of my job is helping people develop the confidence and courage they need to stand up for themselves. I’ve seen so many people in who have great things to offer the world but have been afraid to stand up and speak out due to a lack of confidence in themselves. I love helping them become more confident in themselves and their beliefs, and watching how that confidence brings them greater success in their careers, better relationships, and a greater sense of purpose and fulfillment in their lives.

To get started, just get in touch to set up a free consultation. We’ll talk about your concerns, what you’re hoping to get out of our work together and how I’d go about working with you.