Steal This Parenting Hack To Be More Persuasive

If you’re a parent, you’ve no doubt wrestled with the topic of punishment and consequences during your parenting journey. There’s a technique that turns out to be surprisingly effective: have the child pick their punishment. It doesn’t intuitively make sense: wouldn’t...

The Productivity Death Spiral

“I’m exhausted, but I have to go in this weekend to catch up on my charts,” said my client, sounding dismayed. “I’m not sure that’s a good idea,” I said in response. “How am I ever going to catch up if I don’t put in some extra time?” “How are you ever going to work...

Why We Don’t Let Go, Even When We Should

I was fortunate enough to spend a large portion of my childhood living in Santa Cruz (dude!) While I never learned to surf, I did have a skateboard. And a dog. She was a big Lab / German Shepherd / Husky mix that I’d oh-so-uncreatively named “Buppy” (the name my uncle...

Are You Stuck In The Binary Trap?

We humans often look at things in an ‘either-or’ fashion. In theory, it keeps decision making simple. In practice it’s often problematic. I’ve seen many clients get stuck on a decision point because they see two choices, neither of which is good. From that...

Facts Don’t Matter!

So, you decided to read on despite an inaccurate title. Interesting, huh? While I can’t say for sure, I’m going to guess that you did so because you had an emotional reaction to it. Might have been curiosity, it might have been disdain, but it was emotion. (It...

Do You Really Want To Take Relationship Advice From A Cat?

Looking to increase your level of influence with and respect from others? Curiosity may have killed the cat, but, counter-intuitively, it will do wonders for your credibility and leadership if you use it properly. Dead felines aside, curiosity works because you get...

An Easy Way To Tell If You’re Going Too Fast

Before you get too caught up in the rush that often comes with the post-summer-pre-holiday period, I want you to take a moment to pause and think about the various tasks and projects on your to-do list. How many of them involve finishing something you started but...

Turns Out It’s Not About The Luck

Regardless of what happens, there are (nearly) always possibilities. The role of luck has long been debated when it comes to success, but what’s a much bigger factor is what we do with that luck. Not just the good luck, but also the bad. If we’re not careful, luck...

Are You Too Focused on Fair?

Amanda, a client of mine, was recently passed over for a training and career development opportunity. She felt that it was unfair and initially took it as a personal attack. As we all know, life is unfair. (Funny, nobody seems to get too upset when the unfairness...

Are You Boring Enough To Succeed?

New, different, and even the unexpected can be pretty exciting. Nothing like a little dopamine hit to enhance your day, right? Not to mention the fact that willingness to try something different, adapt on the fly, and take risks are pretty important skills for success...

How To Befriend Your Lizard Brain For Fun And Profit

It looked like a long way down. And that was from the lower ledge. There was a ledge 5 feet above us, too. Tonja’s daughter Emalie was standing next to me. She’s 22. It makes sense that she’d be up here, looking to swing out over the river and jump. Me? Well, my...

Lessons From A Visionary Architect

This past weekend, I was finally able to do something I’ve wanted to do for about 15 years: tour the Hanna House, a Frank Lloyd Wright-designed house in Stanford, California. It’s an amazing design, well worth touring if you’re in the area (though you’ll need to make...