Sleeping With The Enemy

My client Christine had been talking for several minutes about all the unreasonable things happening in her clinic and the lack of support she were receiving from Jim, her medical director. Christine became increasingly agitated as she continued to detail her...

A Self-Care Strategy You Don’t Hear Much About

A quick Google search on ’self-care' turns up 96,200,000 results. I’d bet that a lot of those results touch on some of the more ‘standard’ self-care strategies: exercise, meditation, journaling, improving work-life balance. Well, today I want to share a different...

Overwhelmed And Drained? This Will Help.

It feels good to be wanted, doesn’t it? (You can thank the reward system in your brain for that, by the way.) Unfortunately, though, responding to those wants doesn’t come for free, as anyone who’s feeling overwhelmed and drained is well aware. Often, we’re not aware...

The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year? Not Necessarily.

Yes, we're back to the holiday season. While it can be a great time of year, it's also a very stressful one. If you’re in the business of helping others, that stress can be doubled, since you’re dealing with your own stress and the stress of those you serve. You can...

An Easy Way to Communicate Difficult Information

You probably aren’t a fan of delivering uncomfortable news or information to others. Like it or not, though, it’s something that we all have to do on occasion. When there’s difficulty information to deliver, many people try and avoid the task for as long as they can....

A Simple Technique To Untangle Your Life

The holidays are coming, and that means, among other things, the annual ritual of getting out the Christmas lights. How is it that they always manage to turn into such a tangled, knotted mess? I know that for me, once or twice I’ve given serious thought to just...

Stop Acting Like A Machine

I felt exhausted, exasperated, and hopeless, but I told myself I had to keep going anyway. It seemed like I’d been working on this research project for hours, but had almost nothing to show for it. I was behind, and I was struggling. I wanted to cry. I wanted to throw...

Is It Time To Tune In?

Photo by Eric Nopanen on Unsplash Ever had a situation where you found yourself snapping in response to what someone said or did and then wondering where the heck that came from? Ever had the feeling of being in a bad or ‘off’ mood, but not really having an...

Steal This Parenting Hack To Be More Persuasive

If you’re a parent, you’ve no doubt wrestled with the topic of punishment and consequences during your parenting journey. There’s a technique that turns out to be surprisingly effective: have the child pick their punishment. It doesn’t intuitively make sense: wouldn’t...

The Productivity Death Spiral

“I’m exhausted, but I have to go in this weekend to catch up on my charts,” said my client, sounding dismayed. “I’m not sure that’s a good idea,” I said in response. “How am I ever going to catch up if I don’t put in some extra time?” “How are you ever going to work...

Why We Don’t Let Go, Even When We Should

I was fortunate enough to spend a large portion of my childhood living in Santa Cruz (dude!) While I never learned to surf, I did have a skateboard. And a dog. She was a big Lab / German Shepherd / Husky mix that I’d oh-so-uncreatively named “Buppy” (the name my uncle...

Are You Stuck In The Binary Trap?

We humans often look at things in an ‘either-or’ fashion. In theory, it keeps decision making simple. In practice it’s often problematic. I’ve seen many clients get stuck on a decision point because they see two choices, neither of which is good. From that...